You’re engaged! Congratulations! If you’re about to tie the knot for the second time, your thought process and feelings may be completely different than in the past. You may be struggling with emotions and wondering how to plan a wedding that still feels true to who you are, but different from your first. The good news is, we are here to help!
Out with the old etiquette
Forget the old etiquette of second weddings! Think about what you really want on your big day. Want to wear a white wedding dress? Do it! It’s a huge misconception that a second-time bride can’t wear exactly what she wants–wear what makes you feel fabulous. Want to have that huge wedding you’ve always dreamed of? Make it happen! Want to toss your bouquet again? You can! Go all out! This is a new beginning for you and your partner, so do what makes you happy and represents you as individuals as well as a couple. Don’t let what others think derail your dream wedding.
Include the kids
If you or your partner have children from a previous marriage, it’s a good idea to include them in the wedding. It will make for wonderful memories and most importantly, reassure them they too are a very special part of the day. After all, they are adjusting to a new lifestyle, and this could be a gesture to make the transition easier. Depending on the age of your children, they can walk you down the aisle, read a meaningful passage, perform a song or talent at the ceremony, or propose a toast to you.
Choose the bridal party you really want
For your first wedding, you may have been pressured to include all of your family in your wedding, especially when it comes to bridesmaids. This time, feel free to choose whoever you want and how many bridesmaids you want. Want only a Maid of Honor? Go for it!
Don’t be afraid to ask help
Typically, for a second wedding, it is expected that the happy couple take care of all the big day expenses. So often, many feel like they can’t ask for financial help. But, if you feel like you have stretched your budget and need a little assistance, feel free to ask for it. Family may just surprise you.
Gifts or no gifts?
Gift etiquette is indeed a sensitive area of planning a second wedding, especially if there are repeat guests in attendance. If you are struggling with this, consider simply leaving it up to your guests–let them give whatever they feel is right/acceptable. But, if you and your partner opt for no gifts or would rather a charitable donation, be sure you note this on the invitation.